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Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change your life
The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret.
The result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials,
problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days
follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.
Theirs is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships.
Worry consumes time, anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is
not enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often
seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can
be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change your
life!
What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot
stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which
throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have
no
control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%! How? By your
reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your
reaction.
Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react!
Let's use an example.
You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react:
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup
over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and
criticize them for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. A
short
verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs you find your daughter has been to busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must
leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to
school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed
limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse
and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find
small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A. Did the coffee cause it?
B. Did your daughter cause it?
C. Did the Policeman cause it?
D. Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently
say,
"It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You
come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting
on
the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both go
to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your
boss comments on how good of day you are having.
Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same.
Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not
have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by
your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.
= If someone says something negative about you, do not get angry.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the
negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed
out, etc.
= How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you loose
your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering
wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you
try
and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let
the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not
worry about it!
= You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated?
It will work out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into finding another
job.
= The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control
over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other
passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at
the results.
What we think,what we know, Or what we believe is, in the end, of
little consequence .
The only consequence is What we Do.
